reading that i realised i needed to go there to see what he meant. its really nice to know that im not alone suffering my problems that no one else had, but this article it was like has this guy eric met me? did he write this article because he has been following my life for the past year? thanks everyone :). He asked me why I suddenly changed my wear style ,is it had new boyfriend or what like that. I was with him Saturday and Sunday and we did make love twice and it seemed enjoyable for both of us. If you actually like this guy and find yourself thinking, He stopped chasing me, but I want him, there is some damage control that you can do. so i didnt reply to him and after a short time he said thanks for being disrespectful so i didnt reply to him and at 2 am he sent me on BBM Hope when i wake up in the morning u will do the favor i asked you to and not putting more disrespectful behavior and the hurt youre doing to me. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. This is usually a bad idea! What can I do ? I went up to talk to who wouldve been my new boss and everything felt perfect! Communicate with him and tell him you like him too! People love keeping backups or standby lovers when in reality, they do not love them too much. We used to text almost everyday. I find out every time yet he still does it! now he is totally ignoring me n i dont know why. We also chatted a bit about what wed been up to since we hadnt talked for so long. Instead, make efforts to continue the friendship and get to know him better. It is hard for him because of our long distance. Yesterday I asked him what is the most beautiful thing in his life, and he asked me the same thing.I said its you and he was shocked. Im not there and the time with me is via text . To keep your mind off the situation, stay busy. If he has been avoiding your calls and texts and is making excuses he might be ignoring you for someone else. One fine day he ignores me completely and it went on for weeks. The guy will need to process his feelings too. It is not your job to try to please all people in this world. If a girl asked me out to dinner, I would appreciate the gesture it certainly wouldnt be a turn off. We had spent last weekend Friday day before xmas eve together, he surprised me with a How can I make him care again ? not pay LOL. Be you and show what you want if hes not into it eventually youll find somebody who will be chances are it will be someone you yjought you would never had liked in the first placePay NO aatention to these b.s. Hey Eric, first off you are very handsome i said im okay and he said good. I wish I could be like you. My best friend liked this other guy who I wasnt interested in. Now Im reversing everything. But what I dont get is till when? he came with me to the mall and spoke with me. I doubt that his weirdness had anything to do with you asking him out to dinner. You can build from there. HELP!! Once I was back he was still chasing me wanting to hang out and what not. Hes trying to control me. Should just wait until he contacts me ? Hes a good ol country man who served in the army for 4 years. I sent him a random message about a band he likes playing in a town I was in for the weekend, and he texted back immediately. he stopped pursuing me after i rejected him. Yet he I dont get it. 2 or 3 months had passed and i felt distance. This whole game thing doesnt apply after two people get by their own crap. Then i said hi and im blushing. But i still love him. If you dont hear from someone, you didnt have a chance anyway so youve done yourself a favor by not wasting any more of your time. he told me he wanted me to meet his mother. Putting yourself out there can be a scary thing. No matter how easy you let a guy down, it is still classified as rejection, he would say plainly. Give yourself a little time to heal from the rejection, and with a little effort on your part, you can continue talking to him as if nothing ever happened. "My best guy friend once told me everything and anything. Im turning the tides. yeah, we hooked up. he was right across me. Most importantly, the method I explain below only works under certain conditions. If hes a gentleman, he will own up and tell you that things werent working out. Late my friend goes to up to him and asks him what happened and he said I dont know, I mean shes crazy and obsessive. Im very confused with the situation and I dont know what to do. He might see something that reminds him of you or something you said and remember that he hasnt heard from you. had a good second date as well, then suddenly the texting isnt coming in, and i ahvent heard from him in 4 days! tks, i think try to date and find another one, and dont make him the center of your attention. And his reply is Im a man I dont express myself , thats some girly shit Real mature right? Leaving you completely clueless. He tried for a bit and then it faded off a bit, a few weeks later it started again but I told him I was talking to my ex again and things were good so I didnt wanna screw up. I have to thank you Eric for all the great advice you give on this site. When you told him how you felt he got mad and said you dont need to speak anymore? a few days later he asked me to be his girlfriend. He then proceeded to ignore anything that I said. It was absolutely amazing seeing him after all these years. I have cut off contacting him. If not, then leaving it alone is probably what you should do to get him to notice you again anyway, since ignoring them and going on with your life usually seems to get their attention. However, Ive had a hard time reaching him when I call him. love yourself and take care of it, and turn yourself into someone you would miss. I am direct and I look for people who are not playing stupid games. no matter what people say to me i wil keep him close to my heart for ever. I cant talk to anyone about him because he is already in another relationship he is also much older than me. I just want to be with him and would do anything for him. The best thing to do is to talk to him. Dont go crazy with the posts, but post enough that its clear youre still a fun person living your life, not just someone who is moping around after the rejection. Weve been engaged for a year now and 6 months before put wedding he gets cold feet and starts messaging my best friend /maid of honor and telling her that he feels that she is more compatible with her and enjoys the conversations they have over mine. Please tell me how to : He states he still stays in contact with ex girlfriends and im supposed to be cool with that.yea right. I love him way too much and want him to stay with me. Dont judge them and dont suppress them either. He had been searching and searching for me after he got out and couldnt find me until recently after he had already gotten married. thinking i would benefit of him coming back i some how found a way to persuade him to come back to my school. What Should I Do ? The moment he loses interest, he will decide to move on and spend his energies elsewhere. we started talking again. I dont know what is he expecting. Then, no response. It was friendly and whatnot otherwise. Based on your message I think you did nothing wrong. What actions should I take ? Im not looking for sympathy just some help in understanding how to deal with this situation. That annoyed me but I carried on because he told me he liked sitting next to me better, I was convinced he still liked me. Of course, the length of time that you need to wait will vary from situation to situation. He sounds like he wants his cake & eat it to.. i already said sorry duevto a tease him a bit tooo but he started to make me feel jealous. I wont go into the nerdy programming stuff, but adding an Edit button would create too much overhead for the website. I mean I really want him back because I cant seem to get over my feelings because I know that I wasnt being obsessive and none of what happened was my fault. till the moment he kept avoiding me meeting his mother. He didnt call me all evening. i got angry that i was double booked and that he was not studying. ILLUMINATION. He can date whoever he wants after you guys are broken up. Cant think of what it is at the moment, but Im pretty sure I heard mentioned somewhere else too (I dont read Cosmo). Your urge to control everything could be why he stopped chasing you. He has no kids with this woman and he rarely stays at home with her. Dont fall too hard. This time, he asked for sex. The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by A New Mode, Inc. 6 30 1 , . And it may seem like you cannot let go of the past. I talked to him la few times this yr. Hes really popular so its hard and alot of girls like him. Ugh. We then planned for me to transfer to his town and and after I took out a $700 loan and started my transfer things changed. I have tried to talk too his mother who just tells me hang on in there. Even family. Most men have a mental deadline when it comes to chasing women. He got a tattoo and Im really shocked and cant believe its true. i really do. But trust me, you need to step back now if you have been doing all the work for him, and let him invest in the relationship, because this will make him develop more appreciation and passion for you, and I dont mean investing money, but I mean allowing him to help you and being a part of your life, and put some time and effort in your relationship because we all appreciate what we have been working hard for. The guy and I would hang out and talk a lot and we did hook up. I am about to go on a second date with a man I rejected after the first date. he had lipstick all over his face. That honestly hurt. At the moment when hes calm down he told me to accept him who hes now or leave him. eric, you have really clarified things that have been driving me nuts trying to get. It will keep him guessing and interested and trust me he will want you more and more. 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